When do we stop blaming other people……..for the dumb poop we do?

I know it’s hard to accept blame for things………you learn to blame others at a very young age…..you blame your brother or sister…or dog…or imaginary friend…..No one likes to admit they screwed up. It’s embarrassing and it sure is easier to blame someone else. I think it’s a coping mechanism too.

The reason I am bringing this up is that I’ve been listening to all the reports and following all the television coverage of this Royal Carribean Cruise disaster. (note to self: my daughters are never going on a cruise with friends, to Daytona, Cancun or Aruba…….)
Are any of you following this story? I’ll admit that news is slow right now and there haven’t been many scandals to follow….since the Scott Peterson trial………So, I am or have been following this pathetic story. I remember many months ago seeing the story on one of my sfav hows on A & E, cold case or something….I thought it was an old story……..then this week it was on Larry King, last night on Primetime etc…so it’s not that old, only about 7 months now…..I really wish I had seen the wife on Oprah. I haven't seen the wife on ANY show at all. Why hasn't she been at the sides of the hubby's family? Where is she?

I don’t feel like explaining the story, and even I don’t know all the facts…..I believe there is a timeline of events on the Royal Carribean Cruise Line website…..which I will be checking out.

http://www.royalcaribbean.com/ourCompany/pressCenter/georgeSmith.do;jsessionid=0000e0pqEd97PkJr8nj_RPW0jm7:10ktmf05t

So, this attractive couple, (they look like total wild childs) newlyweds, go on their honeymoon….it’s a cruise of the Mediterranean. Sounds delightful. Now I have never been on a cruise and honestly I’m not sure I really want to unless it’s going someplace very exotic and the accommodations are outstanding and their or no kids allowed (my friend John and his partner just took a magnificent 25 day cruise hitting spots like Dubai, Mumbai, Cairo… now that’s a cruise!) Anyway, so cruising isn’t really for me but I know they are nice and if you have the money, quite luxurious. So this couple…are cruising along. The cruise ship to me is a floating bar or floating frat party, I should say. People are drunk 24/7 and carrying on.
Ths is a typical story. The couple gets drunk, the wife gets flirty with men on the cruise, the hubby gets angry, they have an argument………she storms off, he keeps drinking…he made some friends, they decide to walk him to his room to crash, he sees that the wife isn’t in her room, the hubby wants to look for her (drunk)….they still don’t find her and hubby goes back to the room to sleep…only he doesn’t sleep….he moves some furniture onto the balcony and next time we see him he’s a blood stain (rather significant one) on the awning (not sure of the proper ship terms). Next morning somehow….He ends up missing. Sure, I skipped a lot in between. That same night they found the wife passed out in a hallway….nice huh?
The parents and family of this guy are devastated. I would be too. It’s a terrible tragedy. But why is it the fault of the cruiseline? I mean, you are responsible for yourself. If you carry on like a maniac and end of fish food why is it anyone’s fault but your own? Is it really easier to believe he was murdered than to admit there was an accident?
I would just say it’s a terrible accident. It is what it is…an accident. I think he took the furniture out on the balcony, got up on it (drunk off his ass and angry at the wife….) slipped and fell, split his head open and fell into the big blue.